In this podcast Episode, David & Caron Loveless discuss how to identify and address the ONE issue most marriages stay stuck that often brings great disillusionment.
Identifying the attachment styles operating in your marriage and learning how to accept and grow through them is the most significant way to improve the long-term health and happiness of your relationship.
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Here is a brief summary of today’s episode of “The Live True Podcast.” You can use this as a reference or reminder of key things you feel like you need to pay attention to or pass on to others, in the next 7 days of your life.
Something mysterious seems to regularly trip up most couples. They think the mystery lies somewhere in their spouse. And they feel disconnected and discouraged after all their attempts to fix the problem.
We believe, in many cases, the answer lies in our failure to understand the profound impact our individual “attachment styles” are having in our relationship.
1) Anchored attachment means a person most often feels comfortable with intimacy and they are usually warm and loving. They neither run from conflict nor feel the need to grasp for or over pursue their partner during or after an argument. They easily repair any breaches that arise in a relationship and usually feel relationally secure.
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2) Anxious attachment means a person often has a deep need, even craves intimacy and can be preoccupied with their relationships. They quickly feel any distance in a relationship and strive to do whatever it takes to reconnect and they may become clingy or angry when a connection isn’t happening.
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3) Avoidant attachment is where adults often equate intimacy with a loss of independence and try to minimize closeness. They want to avoid conflict -sometimes at all costs- so they shut down, back away or walk off during an argument. They do want closeness but they often don’t know how to go about staying connected when partners get too close or require true emotional intimacy.
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4) Anxious/avoidant attachment is just like it sounds. This person both avoids and feels anxious at different moments in the relationship. They do a conflicted dance of pulling their partner in and then pushing them away if they start to get too close.
The first step to building more harmony in your marriage is to identify which attachment styles are at work in your relationship.
Listen to rest of the podcast to hear what happens when different attachment styles are at play in a relationship or marriage. Then listen for the three primary ways of using this knowledge to develop a new ability to trust the other that is at the heart of intimacy.
Resource mentioned in this podcast:
One of several very helpful books on this subject: Attachments by Clinton & Sibcy. For more information on this book and/or to purchase, click HERE.
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