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LTP 28- Mastering Your Marriage Pt3- Couples That Play Together Stay Together

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In this podcast Episode, David & Caron Loveless discuss how to move the needle on the fun meter in your marriage.

We know that every personality needs to have their own version of fun. While some are natural at this and others need to work at it more, apparently, we are genetically designed for fun and novelty.

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Research from the University of Denver supports a high correlation between fun and marital happiness. They found that the amount of fun couples have together was the strongest factor in overall marital happiness.

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Serious adult responsibilities like careers, child raising, caring for elderly parents, household chores community & church commitments are all great but after years of managing our to -do lists, it can get easier and easier to let the fun slide and to think of fun together as a luxury, even trivial.

It’s crazy that FUN is the most easily satisfied in marriage

but sometimes the hardest to come by.

Listen to rest of this very fun podcast, by clicking on the “play” button, as we discuss the raising the value of fun in our own marriage and multiple ways that we’re doing this today.

 

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LTP 26- Mastering Marriage Pt 1: The Comfort Clue

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In this podcast Episode, David & Caron Loveless discuss one of the ways to Master Marriage through The Comfort Clue.

Because having a mutually satisfying and long-term marriage seems to remain such a mystery for most people, we thought this month that we’d pull back a part of that mystery curtain.  Some things that used to be a mystery to us, have gotten clearer than ever… which has resulted in an even more glorious marriage than ever.

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One of the many things we’ve seen is this: The degree to which we were comforted in childhood directly relates to our ability and capacity to experience emotional closeness and resolve conflict in relationships… particularly marriage.

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In the next several episodes we are going to be talking about how we can boost intimacy and connection in marriage.

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God’s Message To You Through A Violin

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Not long ago, I was asked to speak at a church and just before I brought the message the worship team led us in a song that featured a violin. Later, I learned that violin was being played by a girl named Mariana, who was one of the top young violinists in Romania.

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As Mariana played I sensed God drawing my attention to the instrument and saying, “I have something to say to you and to the church through this violin.”  So, as I sat there, totally moved by the soaring, emotive melody God spoke two things to me :

1) Just like in nature, everything that appears to have died, comes back again in other life-giving forms.

That violin was a miracle.  Once, it was a piece of dead wood.

Now in the hands of Mariana, it became a singing tree!

In 1 Corinthians 15:46, scripture says that “first comes the natural, then the spiritual.”  One of the best ways to understand what’s going on in our invisible, spiritual world is to notice what’s happening in front of us in the material one.

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LTP 25- Rethinking The Glorification Of Busy

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In this podcast Episode, David & Caron Loveless discuss how to Rethink The Glorification of Busy.

The busyness of our lives has led to unprecedented levels of exhaustion, stress, and vulnerability. Conventional wisdom tells us to the key to sanity is changing or better managing the external chaos of life. But transformative wisdom tells us that our internal chaos is ALWAYS the key to changing our external chaos.

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Here is a brief summary of today’s episode of “The Live True Podcast.”  You can use this as a reference or reminder of key things you feel like you need to pay attention to or pass on to others, in the next 7 days of your life.

The typical conversation these days always start with the same question: “How are you doing?” And the standard answer is usually: “Busy… tired… exhausted.”

Can this be different?  Should it be different?

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Busyness and exhaustion seems to be the new merit badge of acceptance these days.

Here are three take-away’s you’ll find in listening to the audio portion of today’s podcast:

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LTP 24- Finding Good News In Harsh Places

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In this podcast Episode, David Loveless talks about how good news is birthed in harsh places.

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For most of us, we’ve believed that good news is birthed in good places, not harsh places.  But Mark 1 turns that notion on its ear.

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Mark 1:1-4  The beginning of the good news about Jesus the Messiah, the Son of God, as it is written in Isaiah the prophet:  “I will send my messenger ahead of you, who will prepare your way”— “a voice of one calling in the wilderness/desert, ‘Prepare the way for the Lord, make straight paths for him.’” And so John the Baptist appeared in the wilderness/Desert, preaching a baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins.”

 I’m drawn toward the fact that the beginning of the good news… the birthplace of the good news is in the desert.- where it feels like bad news.

Listen to David’s examples, in today’s audio podcast, of his time in both deserts and gardens.

All of living, loving, & leading seem to flow on a continuum

between garden and desert experiences.

Garden experiences Desert experiences
Promised land

Lush

Abundance

Joyful

Easy

 No mans land

Barren

Scarcity

Painful

Difficult

It’s interesting to me that our spiritual story begins in a garden in Genesis 2:8… and our biological story begins in a garden-like womb.

But, look where we’re first introduced to the ministry of Jesus —in the desert.  God’s Good News Tour doesn’t open on top of a scenic mountain or in a palatial garden. It starts from a place of isolated emptiness.

Listen to the audio podcast as David describes how he reacted over the years, to have desert-like experiences and what was the result of them.

 Luke 3: 4-6   “A voice of one calling in the wilderness, ‘Prepare the way for the Lord, make straight paths for him. Every valley shall be filled in, every mountain and hill made low.  The crooked roads shall become straight, the rough ways smooth.  And all people will see God’s salvation.’”

In your place of difficulty or temptation or hardship where you feel most exposed to enemies activity… God says make a straight path for me there and let me walk there…  let me walk in the desert place of your life and let’s walk straight into it and straight through it.

Here is another part of challenge of Luke 3: many people never step foot in the church because they don’t feel welcomed or invited.  They see the church as an exclusionary institution, that decides who’s right and who’s wrong.

The church often makes mountain tops higher

and the valleys deeper for people to get through.

It tends to turn the whole thing into an obstacle course.

But the job of true religion is to make it easy for people to understand and draw close to the very thing they were made for.

Here’s several things I had to ‘get straight’ in my desert…

A.   I had to ‘get straight’ in my mind that this path, while difficult beyond description, was going somewhere profoundly good and it wasn’t to hell.

B.   I had to ‘get straight’ in my mind that this path, wasn’t going to last forever…. even though I could see no other road ahead.

Jesus came bringing this good news.  And a part of what makes it so good is that it stands up to the heat of even the most difficult places.

Where is your desert?  Your place of need?

Wherever that place is for you, God says let me walk with you THERE, because I’m not ashamed of it anymore than I am ashamed of you.  I’m good news to you in the desert, as well as the garden.  I love you. I’m with you…wherever you are.

Here are some amazing words from Isaiah 35:

Wilderness and desert will sing joyously, the badlands will celebrate and flower—Like the crocus in spring, bursting into blossom, a symphony of song and color.  Energize the limp hands, strengthen the rubbery knees. Tell fearful souls, “Courage! Take heart! God is here, right here, on his way to put things right And redress all wrongs. He’s on his way! He’ll save you!”

Springs of water will burst out in the wilderness, streams flow in the desert. Hot sands will become a cool oasis, thirsty ground a splashing fountain.

The people God has ransomed will come back on this road. They’ll sing as they make their way home, unfading halos of joy encircling their heads,  Welcomed home with gifts of joy and gladness as all sorrows and sighs scurry into the night.

David finishes this podcast with a blessing for you in your desert places.

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LTP 23- Accepting Our Necessary Losses

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In this podcast Episode, David & Caron Loveless discuss how to live through and actually cooperate with both little and big deaths or losses throughout our lives, so something even larger and more fulfilling can emerge from it all… and how the resurrection shows the way.

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Here is a brief summary of today’s episode of “The Live True Podcast.”  You can use this as a reference or reminder of key things you feel like you need to pay attention to or pass on to others, in the next 7 days of your life.

Let’s begin with my confession:  “I don’t like to die!”

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It’s no surprise that as humans we avoid physical death, like the plague.  But there’s actually a far more significant death that we avoid… it’s the death of our ego… the death of who we perceive we are, or think we should be… the death of who we think others want us to be or think that we are.  So let me try again.

“I don’t like for anything I’ve manufactured…. created… can take credit for… I’m attached to… my beliefs, my opinions… my compulsive thinking….that i believe enhances or supports my identity.. I don’t like for any of that to die.”

We have a fear of dying our little deaths but it is the thing that keeps us from growing.

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LTP 22- How To Discover & Live Your Calling

An Interview with David Loveless & Dave Rhodes

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In this podcast Episode, David Loveless interviews Dave Rhodes about how to discover the unique purpose that God has wired into your story.

We’re are going to talk about how God intersects our: Name; Narrative; and Nine to five lives to show the world around us the masterpiece called us, that is uniquely wired to demonstrate Him.

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We all have a common last name, but we also have a unique first name. You need both of these things.

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Eph 2: 8-10  For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—  not by works, so that no one can boast.  For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do

God has prepared in advance something for each of us to do.  Because we are His masterpiece there is a usefulness that He has for our lives.

God hasn’t given up on His dream that He has had about your life.

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LTP 21 Healing Wounds From Our Parents

An Interview with Francis Anfuso

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In this very emotional podcast episode, David Loveless interviews Francis Anfuso on how we can see further healing from wounds that initially came from our parents.

Francis grew up in an extremely difficult home that people throughout the country thought would have been magnificent, but behind the curtains, it was everything but that.

Here is a part of his journey toward healing… and we believe, your journey toward healing.

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Here is a brief summary of today’s episode of “The Live True Podcast.”  You can use this as a reference or reminder of key things you feel like you need to pay attention to or pass on to others, in the next 7 days of your life.

We know that our pain can lead to our passion which can then lead to our purpose in life… unless we get jaded in that pain.

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In the interview, we explore some of these questions and more:

  • What does your journey look like when someone else’s script is informing your story, and the wounds remain unattended?
  • What do you do when you can’t even relate to God as father?
  • How can that be changed?
  • Can a person who has been through any difficulty in their childhood, reclaim any part of that childhood?
  • How can we process our experiences of:

A Wounded Heart

An Abandoned Child

The Neglected Child

The Fearful Child

The Embittered Child

The Abused Child

The Performance Driven Child

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LTP 20 Our Vital Need For Soul Care

An interview with Dr Rich Plass & Jim Cofield

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In this podcast Episode, David & Caron Loveless interview the counselors, whom they met with for more than a year, and who helped get them through their worst nightmare.

What does it look like to engage in the vital soul care that every person yearns for? What causes relationships and marriages to go from great intent to horrible experiences? What do leaders need to be paying attention to in their own personal lives and why?

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Here is a brief summary of today’s episode of “The Live True Podcast.” 

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In today’s interview, the following subjects are explored:

  • Understanding how the very core of our being and identity is completely wrapped up in relationship.
  • How the understanding of your core identity as a relational soul, is radically different than thinking that relationships are one of the many slices of the pie of your life… or one of many different roles you play.
  • What causes the soul to thrive vs wither?
  • How increasing one’s knowledge of God will NEVER bring about desired life transformation unless it is coupled with increasing knowledge of one’s self.
  • What are the danger points in leaders lives?

 Resources mentioned in this podcast episode:

  • The Relational Soul by Dr Rich Plass & Jim Cofield.  To purchase, click HERE.
  • You can find more about Rich & Jim’s ministry by clicking HERE. 
  • The softcover and/or audio version of our book Nothing to Prove: Find the Satisfaction and Significance You’ve Been Striving for at the Core of Your True Identity are both available now. 

And for the next 4 days only to those who purchase a book we are offering  special discounted packages that include considerable *FREE bonus material. 

To get yours now or get more info, click HERE.

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LTP 19- Seeing Your True & False Self In Action

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In this podcast Episode, we discuss how to observe both your true and false self in action.

In our new book, Nothing To Prove, we unpack a framework of 3 steps, that we use daily in order to see progressive levels of growth and transformation in our lives.

#1) Pinpoint what drives your compulsive identity

#2) Plant yourself in the Source of your true Identity

#3) Participate in practices to help anchor you at the core of your true identity  

So as you listen to this podcast, hear the simple and yet varied ways you can begin to pinpoint, plant and then participate in your true identity.

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Here is a brief summary of today’s episode of “The Live True Podcast.”  You can use this as a reference or reminder of key things you feel like you need to pay attention to or pass on to others, in the next 7 days of your life.

Self awareness is an essential key that opens the door to patterns of living and being that are actually sabotaging your life.  It is also a way that you can begin to live further into the life you actually yearn for.  

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We’ve created a chart that will help you identify which “identity lens” you are viewing your life through at any given time.

These comparisons can be used as a spiritual practice. Each day or 2-3 times a week,  spend a few minutes to take snap shots of which identity that you are living out of.

Here are just a few of them.  (* By the way, this isn’t intended for you to be harsh or critical with yourself or others, but to increase your self- awareness.)

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